GRIEF: Am I just too emotional? By Laura Grace

 

GRIEF!

are some people just emotional? Or is Grief experienced in different ways?

 

by Laura Grace (Author Of Grace to Grow)

 

" Father I thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing out

what you have put in my heart and what you have taught me Father

and help me articulate this and to share with others "Your rivers of life"

deep within me, In Jesus name I pray, and let it be a help in others

understanding better their relationship with You and with others...amen"

Grief! It hits us all doesn't it? Ever dropped an egg on the floor and just

watched it spatter down the fridge to the floor making a big mess? Good
GRIEF! (I have said this) but that is not the type of grief I am talking about

here, although that kind can be a real pain; In the midst of a busy day!

Some people grieve at Christmas because they no longer have a family or

they grieve because they lost everything they own or maybe their child will

no longer speak to them and for them "it's like death." All hope is gone the

relationship is severed and yes "It feels like death" to them. When we go to

a funeral what are we grieving about? We won't see them anymore this side

of Heaven! They are lost, they are gone right? For some knowing their loved

ones aren't saved feels "just as bad" is that wrong of them to feel this way?

Well it can't be: For we know God's Son experienced that type of grief as well.

Grief is experience by people in different ways because people are so very

different. Jesus grieved before he went to the cross and wrestled with "what"

was about to happen to him (in advance!!) Therefore, by the time he went

nothing caught him by surprise! I know that the King of Kings housed in a

human body, yet perfect in every way, was so overcome by pain he cried

out "My God my God......why hast thou forsaken me?" He knew what was

coming "yet' it appears he was caught off guard or by surprise? Not so!

Some people believe the only type of grief that is important or relevant is

when someone dies or someone is in a tragic accident. I have made it my

almost full time job to study and pray for people for years now, and also

I ask the Lord a lot of questions about relationships. When I do go to pray

for someone I go and say so Lord, what is up with them? In a lot of cases

he shows me! (by His Spirit!!).

I know there are many books, teachings, Psychology and much learning to

be had about grief and it's process (as well as the stages of grief as well.)

What many do not realize is: That some people do: "grieve in advance"

because they see what is coming. Therefore there are those who see that

someone is going to a road which leads to destruction or they see that their

marriage is going to come apart at the seams (In advance mind you, they

see this coming) and it's a different thing than being negative because the

bible says that the Holy Ghost "warns us" of things to come!

TO teach that everything will be hunky dory all the time and "life will be a

bed of roses with no thorns" if only you believe is not a responsible teaching.

People who "grieve in advance" as I call it are often very misunderstood

people. People who do sense and know (by the Spirit of God) something

unpleasant is going to happen are seen as negative, when actually God's

love to prepare us in advance (for certain things) is a gift of his loving kind

ness towards us. Jesus saw in advance what would happen with Peter, even

that Peter would deny him thrice.

To Peter I'm sure, this seemed like a very negative thing, and his response of course was:

"Never, that's not going to happen!" (but, it did!).

Words of Knowledge from the Lord, Warnings as well as happy promises of life and blessing

are all meant to edify and build up the Body of Christ.

As I continue to say (and will always say) these cookie

cutter doctrines that keep us from knowing ALL we need to know about the
Lord really do HAVE TO GO in order for us to not only see him as he really is,

but to become more like him! The Lord has blessed me with many things to share

but I do hold back sometimes, (I admit this) not wanting to upset anyone's apple

carts. We do need to realize that GRIEF (like so many other subjects) is a very

painful thing! People who grieve in advance because the Lord has already shown

them what is going to happen should not be seen as "Just being emotional!" A

person who just suffered a loss in the natural we never dare say such a thing!

When Peter told Jesus he would not go to the cross Jesus said (looking at him but

actually talking to the devil) "Get behind me satan!". WOW, how would any of us

handle that if Jesus said that to us, just because we were trying to be positive?

When God said we should "weep with those who weep" did he only mean if someone

just passed away? (did he even say that?) HMM ..........

Maybe its time to ask ourselves if some (forms) Of depression are actually repressed

grief because of all these rules and regulations we put on people about "what is valid"

(in terms of grief) or what is not valid? So often people Decide WHAT is appropriate

or what isn't based on some idea they have that never came from God in the first place!

Positively yours, and convinced more than ever of God's incredible love for us all,

and with Love,

Laura Grace